Just moments ago I have discussion with my parents about my sister wedding. My dad wants to make some kind of “VIP” classification, they are guests who have “superior position” or hold “superior social statuses” on my parent’s office. To honors their attendance and makes them special, every VIP guests coming would have their name mentioned by the emcee upon their arrival to the wedding venue. They also would have VIP area separately from the “common” guest area. In that separated area, they will sit comfortably on a chair and share their round dining table with other VIPs. While the rest of others common guest should enjoy their meals by standing. Even though chairs are also provided for the commoners to sit in, but it is not in the sufficient amount equal with the total guests. So there will be somehow explicit categorization within the guests.
I was saying to them that VIP classification should not be necessary. We are supposed to make every guest equal and special and they should mingle together whoever they are….
If we want to say about VIP, it should refer to those who have a very close relationship with our family. Those who have done a lot, shared their joys and tears with our family. Not the one our family superficially knows and just for the sake of their position.
Unfortunately, that is not the case in my parent’s mindset, and not in the head of most people here.
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There’s a time when I’m inside the subway, a very crowded subway. Peoples are walking in their own paces. Workers are wearing their business attire, Nanny were came from supermarket buying greens and fruits, and the youngsters came with their own personal style of emo, harajuku, casual, hip-hop whatever it is labeled. They, we, I was like minions with the same big picture of paces living a life.
There’s a time when my plane just takes off. I saw outside the window, everything is just small. Cars were like small dots moving. I cannot differ which one is Hyundai which one is Hummer. Human? I don’t even able to see it. Don’t ask me, which one is Dian Sastro, which one is Oscar Lawalata (even on face to face I think they are separated at birth!), They’re just perhaps atomic stuff I seen from my distance.
There’s a moment in my life, I was on an omra pilgrimage. Shedding my tears while rounding the Kabah, I was wearing one piece of white fabric. The open space I’m on is so huge, but my movement is limited because I shared it with other millions of people who wear the same sheet like I do.
I feel so small, feel worthless.
I believe seeing from the high distance up there; My God will see what I see on my plane’s window.
Who are we to classified people?
I believe social status, physical appearance, position or any cultural classification should be dead and buried in today’s human civilization. Peoples should live together in equality within their own capacity in any circumstances.
ya klo menurutku emng kadang orang tua kan pny pikiran sendiri tentang masalah itu, mslhnya mereka ngrasa emang ini “gawe”nya mreka.
klo ak si sejujurnya emng gak pingin ada VIP2 an gitu, rncnanya malah besok2 pingin pesta rakyat.. hahahah..
ya intinya, ortu kan pasti punya pemikiran sendiri tentang acara “gawe” yg dianggap sekali seumur hidup buat anaknya..
From the bottom of my heart I sympathize with your opinion; the ideal to me is that all people are treated equal. My life’s philosophy can be caught in the slogan of the French revolution:”Liberté, égalité, fraternité”( freedom, equality, solidarity).
But I guess it’s beyond our power to do so. Each and everyone will eventually discriminate between those who are great to be with and those you want to avoid by all means; those who are good looking and others who aren’t; those who are giving and those who are stingy etc.
Yet, anyone extra who lives according to your view on the matter, makes mankind making one step to the ideal world.
“There’s a moment in my life, I was on an omra pilgrimage. Shedding my tears while rounding the Kabah, I was wearing one piece of white fabric…and there’s also a moment in my life..drinking wine and sushi…balancing my social culture with no prior thought of my shedding tears moment”
we are human..its our nature to classifying things, peoples, etc..the different is your parent classify them by their social status and me by their kindness and loyalties..
thats why im goin to have “american-style” wedding on plan..we shud adopt whts gut and quitting bad ones..